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Turning Lessons from 2012 into a New Year of Success!

thoughts-you-haveTo pick up the recent holiday issue of Economist magazine entitled “A Rough Guide to Hell” depicting the woes of climate change, economic trauma, gluttony and violence, you would have to assume tough times. To watch the news on any given network or internet news sight you could certainly get depressed as well and would even ask yourself is 2013 going to be more of the same?

Yet over this last year, I have travelled more of the world than ever before and have noticed one common thread, particularly outside of the US. It is a thread of hope, toughened optimism and the belief that life will get better. It is a faith in cultures both economically rich and poor that “education and learning” is the ticket to a bright and prosperous future.

While the gap between rich and poor seems to be widening in certain areas, economists have observed that the rich and poor gap is actually lessening globally. Why? Simple. Countries driving billions of dollars toward educating their populations at an early age is making a huge difference. For them, there is hope and aspiration. The question is, what are you learning?

My point is, “reality is created by agreement.” The agreement of those you hang out with and the agreement you have with yourself.

As my friend Mack Newton says….”achievement of what you want is ‘inevitable’ if your mindset, self-concept and attitude are right and if you eliminate the popular addiction to negative thinking.

So as we cross the cusp of year’s end and new beginning, the choice is not so much about what seems to be happening. It is all about what you are disciplined enough to focus on. If you are like me, I would love 2013 to be the best so far. So amid the blizzard of violence, political nonsense, economic uncertainty and paranoia….how do you create a reality for yourself, your family and your community that brings you the best.

2012 laid out the roadmap for learning how to create that reality. Here are the top seven lessons as I see it:

  1. The “steering wheel of your life” as Mack would say, are continually setting GOALS. Not a resolution, not a wish and not a hope…. Goals that are truly yours, that you own, deserve and have a burning desire and belief in. Not setting them may exempt you from possible failure, but condemn you to a life of either random and momentary inspiration or helplessness.
  2. Through the turbulent times, you should learn by now to TRUST yourself. You have been through a lot. You have weathered many storms emotionally, financially and spiritually. Just know that you have embodied powerful lessons and that you are not a “rookie” any more. Trust that you can make the right decisions, do the right things and if you mess up… that you surely know how to correct and improve to have the life you want. You are qualified.
  3. No matter what has happened or what may happen…. stay PRESENT. Whether it is in a critical moment in your career or more importantly in a simple moment with those you love, stay connected and 100% present. Take it one push-up at a time, one hour of presentation at a time, one conversation at a time. Do not let your Little Voice detour you to the thousands of addicting distractions that tempt you. Do not put your focus on what lies ahead or what has already transpired. Stay present from your heart to your eyes, to their eyes to their heart. I learned in 2012 that the world will suddenly work in a magical way for you when you do this.
  4. Cherish and show gratitude toward those TRUE FRIENDS and PARTNERS that share your values, your visions and who love you for exactly who you are….not who they think you are or who you think they want you to be. Those who you surround yourself with create the context for helping you inevitably getting what you want and being who you want to be – without obligation. Learning and reaffirming who these people are in my life has been the greatest gift of 2012. I am sure they are yours as well!!!
  5. Be clear on your VALUES and let them govern every decision. In 2012, like you, I experienced things that forced me to get clear on who I really am. For me at ten thousand feet on the flanks of Mt. Kilimanjaro the value of LOVE came roaring to the forefront of my life as being the single most important value. It boosted me to new levels of relationship with my family, associates and myself. Values such as honor, integrity, learning and gratitude rounded out my top five. Having a Code of Honor that protects those values can mean the difference between fulfillment and regret.
  6. Whether it is age or experience or just getting smarter, it has become clear that PATIENCE is critical to success and happiness. If the context is right, and the goals are clear, the Universe will follow a due process. Learning to minimize the Little Voice that gets irritated with lag, that becomes intolerant of others, that wants to grab the course of events and drive it has been a huge lesson. It could be waiting in a never ending line, stuck in traffic, waiting for responses from buyers or sellers, listening to the same repeated excuses, which can result in inappropriate and impatient action. It’s that action that can ultimately either disrupt or abort the process of transformation and growth that you are looking for.
  7. Most of all for 2013, your ability to master your Little Voice by controlling your Thoughts and Emotions will make the biggest difference. Does your emotion drive primarily on negative thoughts of fear, worry, guilt or non-deservedness? Or does your emotion drive on positive excitement, anticipation, love, confidence and high self-esteem? Either way, your emotions are the fuel and passion behind your actions and will drive them in one way or the other.

Like I said….all around you there is a blizzard of negativity fueled by high emotion (and sometimes low intelligence). Did you buy in or did it make you stronger? 2012 was a training year to prepare for 2013 and beyond. The question is: “What did you learn?”

I hope that you learned how big of a person you really are. If you check the record I am sure you will recall moments of you actually feeling how great you are. If you learned just that…..this next year will lay before you a feast of successes in all areas of your life.

You have heard me quote Bucky Fuller before by saying that those moments are “Licks of the ice cream….” and that you would only be given licks…” if you were meant to have the whole cone!”

We love you and are honored to be part of your world,

Remember to love yourself and always BE AWESOME!

Happy New Year!!

Blair

Use Positive Events to Build Positive Life Experiences

6 Tips to Being Happier and More Successful

I have studied under many mentors, all using different approaches to help people find ways to lead happier, more fulfilled lives. In this blog post, I will share some of the highlights that I practice myself, because I found each of them to have tremendous value, and when combined have helped create dramatic shifts in my life. I encourage you to employ them as part of your own daily living and create the positive life experience you want to have for yourself!

  1. When something good happens in your life – celebrate it! This allows you to pause and truly enjoy your life in that moment.
  2. While you are celebrating and experiencing that moment of emotional joy, also take a moment to be grateful to have this experience in your life. When you express gratitude for what you have and do so with a positive attitude, you are sending a message to this Universe that you would like to attract more of the same. This may be a bit “woo woo” for some of you, but it won’t hurt to try it.
  3. Envision your dreams for yourself and then set goals that you can use to drive your daily activities towards achieving your dreams. These goals will keep you moving towards the things that will deliver the most happiness to you. Goal setting helps you get what you want quickly and efficiently instead of just hoping and wishing for things to magically appear in your life (which usually does not work).
  4. If you fall short of achieving a specific goal, you can look at what you DID achieve and learn in the process of pursuing the goal and celebrate THAT win (see point #1)!positive_events_blogpost_image
  5. Whenever something positive in your life happens, own it.
    Yep, that’s right – take ownership that you helped make it happen (even if it seems like this wonderful thing fell from the sky into your lap) and tell yourself these two things:
    a. Good stuff like this happens to you ALL THE TIME and
    b. YOU DESERVE IT.It wasn’t a one-off strike of luck (you’re always lucky and the Universe knows you deserve good things, so it sends them your way all the time). Dr. Marty Seligman wrote a book called Learned Optimism which talks about the significant statistical increase in sales performance for sales people who have an optimistic outlook over salespeople who do not. You may not get why it works, you may not be a “woo woo” kind of person – but the statistical proof backs up that this behavior and thought process can actually help you experience more success in your life… so try it!
  6. My mentor, Mack Newton, taught me to use affirmations when facing a challenging situation. Try an affirmation like: “I like myself! I CAN do this!” Doing this will help you briefly tap your energy source to help you keep going when you doubt your ability to carry on. Repeat it as often as needed until you are done. It has helped me in countless workouts, when I think I have nothing left, to keep going. I employ this technique and always access energy that I did not know was there to carry me through!

There you have it, 6 things you can start implementing in your life TODAY for a dramatic improvement of how you experience your life and the success you create in it!

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Don’t Let Your Little Voice Sabotage Your Success

I had the opportunity to work with a group of salon owners and stylists in Halifax, Novia Scotia not long ago. During this workshop, we discussed overcoming the little voice that sabotages your ability to be as big as you WANT to be and as big as you CAN be.

Everyone has a little voice that will take you down if you dont learn to identify, and then overcome it, to achieve great things. Listening to me teach what needs to be done is one thing, but for any of you that have been through a training program with me, you know I like to give you an experience that drives the message home.

In this case, the experience was a 1-hour selling exercise for teams. The goal was simple, each team was to reach out to as many clients and prospects as they could and book as many appointments, as possible. There was no direction on how to reach those people, how to entice them, what you had to offer them, or for how much. Just go fill your appointment books as much as possible, and dont let your little voice sabotage your success!

We had over 30 teams participate and a wide range of responses. But, to illustrate my point about not letting your little voice sabotage your success, I want to discuss 2 specific teams:

The challenges both teams faced:

1. The appointment software was unavailable, so checking the calendar to schedule and confirm available appointment times was not possible.

2. The list of clients and prospects were back at the salon, so there was no way to access that information (there was no one at the salon to look and share the information with those at the workshop).

The difference in how the teams addressed these challenges was staggering:

In this situation, what would YOU do?

Team 1 did not make a single call or appointment. They determined they were cut off from their resources and therefore were not able to participate (they took themselves out of the game).

Team 2 booked the second highest number of appointments per teammate (8.5 appointments for each individual per hour). As a team, they filled their books with approximately $3500 in appointments IN ONE HOUR!

If your little voice tells you that there is “no way” you can do it, and you (and your team) accept that thought, then of course, youre right. And, if you tell your mind that you will overcome the obstacles that block your path, more times than not, you will.

Which team would you have been part of?

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2nd Edition of Little Voice Mastery is Barnes and Nobles Book of the Month

I’m excited to announce that the new release of the 2nd Edition of Little Voice Mastery was selected as Barnes and Noble’s book of the month! It was also the #1 best-selling book in Amazon’s Business & Investing category! A big Thank You to all of YOU who helped make that happen! Many in my community have been asking for an electronic version of this book. I will be releasing one very soon. For those of you who asked me for more information regarding the 2nd edition release of Little Voice Mastery, please see the press release that announced the book at www.blairsinger.com/press. If you have the book, I would love your feedback on my Facebook page at: www.facebook.com/blairsinger1.

Welcome To The Wonderful World Of Living Life With A Purpose

The mere fact that I’m sitting here writing this for you is a testament to the unbelievable life-changing power of goal-setting. I spent most of my years as a young adult viewing myself as defective. I felt that something was fundamentally wrong with me as a person. Maybe I was the reason my father-deserted my mother and I… maybe I was the reason she died. Maybe… I was just defective.

No… I wasn’t, but I believed I was and that belief set the course for my life. I needed big medicine to change me and ultimately… my life. And… I-found it… in goal setting. Naturally, I set goals that were meant to make me more confident, courageous and compassionate. Goals that would-allow me to honor and respect myself… for that is one of the keys to life and without it you would not be charitable or have the ability to look at the
world and see beyond yourself.

So many are using goal-setting to achieve tangible goals and that’s great, but the early purpose for me using goal-setting was simply to get a life.

So, early on, I set numerous intangible goals… I needed to learn how to value and trust myself… to make good, good decisions that would enhance-my self-esteem. In addition, I wanted to prove to myself that I was okay… that I wasn’t defective… that I was good… in fact, that I could be great.

All of that… and more… is within the power of goal setting. When you achieve the major skill of goal-setting, you truly have the ability to rebound-from any of life’s challenges and the confidence needed to pursue your true possibilities.

You’ve heard me say it before and you’ll hear me say it again… success is goal-setting… and all the rest is just conversation. Following an effective-goal setting process will allow you to feel the power of that statement. And… like me, you’ll soon come to the conclusion that becoming an-obsessive goal-setter gives you the ability to control the direction of change in your life.

When you set goals, you’re saying “Thank you!” for all the good things that are working in your life… it’s positive self-esteem in action. When you-discover what you truly value in life and then learn how to match your goals with your values, you will, in effect, truly have your hands on the steering-wheel of your life.

As a life-long martial artist, I’ve been influenced by many principled, honorable and committed individuals. Even in this impressive group, Blair Singer-stands out. His energy is contagious… his vision is limitless and I am honored to be involved with someone as committed to goal setting as I am.

We-invite you to learn what you truly want and become convinced that you too can live the life that you’ve imagined using the powerful process of-goal setting.

Join us in taking a huge step out of the shadowy world of just hoping things get better and into the wonderful world of living life with a purpose-when you start to set goals for yourself. Access our Champion Level Goal Setting Program here.

Pil Sung!
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Mack Newton, 8th Degree Black Belt GTF
Director and Master Instructor, Newton Fitness and Taekwon-Do, Phoenix, Arizona

 

Create your Extraordinary LifeStarting Today

Have you ever noticed that just when you have a great idea that can make you lots of money, just when you decide you’re going to change your life, just when you believe you can be more than you are today, a “Little Voice” between your ears says, “Who do you think you are? Are you kidding? You really can’t do that in this economy?” It’s a pesky “Little Voice” that puts you down and holds you back with negative energy and thoughts.

But, imagine how extraordinary your life would be, where you could be, if you learned how to control that “Little Voice.” Believe it or not, you can. The power is already inside you. You just haven’t learned how to master it yet.

I wrote the book “Little Voice” Mastery so you can take charge of your “Little Voice” and achieve your dreams. I’m telling you, the power is right between your ears. I made sure to include simple techniques for mastering your own “Little Voice,” things that take no time at all, but are life changing.

I really want you to be the bigger, better you that is bottled up inside. Especially in these depressed economic times when it’s easy to feel down. I want you to overcome your “recession in your own mind” and make 2011 your best year yet!