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Final Thoughts on Communication

Communication begins with consciousness… With awareness of your surroundings. Think about this: Rather than attempting to communicate with someone, sell something, market something, criticize something, or have a discussion… Be aware of your surroundings and the situation you find yourself in.

You’re probably thinking, “what specifically should I be aware of?”

That’s a great question, keep reading.

When I developed the skill I’m about to share with you, the effectiveness of my communication went through the roof. Like any other skill in business and in life, I had to practice. It didn’t come easy in the beginning.

Communication Skill: Aim for awareness of little voices going on in the other person’s mind. Here’s some ideas…

  • I’m afraid of losing my job.
  • I am afraid about the future.
  • My insecurities get the best of me.
  • I don’t know if this is going to work.

Before I ask you what kind of leader you want to be, you need to know this… As a great communicator, you need to have a firm grasp on the fundamentals of what is going on in the mind of the people you’re communicating with. Once you have this awareness, your aim is to address them effectively in your language.

Recognize that people desire dignity and respect. As you know, sensitivity levels are high right now. Why are sensitivities are so high? Fear is at the center of it all. People do not think rationally until they overcome their fear. You may be the only one who can instill in them a sense of hope, dignity, and respect. They can then rise beyond the desperation of becoming bankrupt, hungry, starving, dying, or becoming ill.

Click “Play” on the video below for my final thoughts on communication… you will be glad you did.

Reader, I must ask you… What kind of a leader do you want to be? How far do you want to take your business? Who do you want to influence?

Your communication is made up of words, tonality, inflection, and body language. Mastering these components will put you on your way to becoming a great communicator.

Since you’re here now, you’re reading this post, and you know you want to enhance your communications skills and take your take your business to the next level… I’d like to invite you to check out Blair Singer’s Training Academy (BSTA).

It’s a new world of business skills for entrepreneurs you can take with you and access anywhere, at any time. 

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I’ll see you on the inside… and until then…

Be Awesome.

Communication Success Model (part 2)

Last time, I shared how communication has changed in the last 2 years.  Communication in our personal lives and as a leader.  Today, we will cover how it applies to your business.

To me, the most obvious way it applies to your business is the fact that the whole game of sales is different now.  Why is it different? Well first, it’s different because, you must use technology to communicate. And if you’re not doing that, you’re not communicating with very many people. In today’s world, people are glued to their devices.  You need to meet them where they are, where they spend their time.

Number two is that in sales, the days of high pressure, selling hard value doesn’t work.  People aren’t going for that anymore. These days, people want to have a conversation, to connect.  They want to know that the person who’s dealing with them cares about them and has their back.  Genuinely.  They want to feel that buying something from you is probably the safest thing that they could do, not the riskiest thing that they could do.


The whole formula of how we deal with people has evolved, morphed, and changed. My friend, Simon Bowen, has done a tremendous amount of work in the area of the shift in sales psychology.  Based on

his study of this shift, he would say it should be a safe encounter. The conversation is different, it’s about deep value.  Not about pricing anymore. People are value their money because there’s not a lot of it going around now.

How does it affect you as a leader?   As a business owner? Or business professional?

As a leader, whether it’s your own business or the world, you’ve got to know how to communicate one to many. Why?   Because our interactions have adjusted and we don’t go out as much, making it hard to talk to big groups of people.  And you can’t talk to one after another, after another, you must understand the technology, be able to talk one to one and be able to lead one to many.

The other thing is this, communication that works is based on authenticity.  In other words, no more promises. People are sick of promises. They’ve been promised so much, and they know those promises are not steeped in reality. People don’t know who to believe.

And that’s why the third component is you must learn how to teach, how to be a great teacher.   Particularly if you have a business (or have kids) it’s important to be able to teach, teach what’s really true.  You can’t always believe what you’re watching on TV or social media.  You can’t always believe what’s going on in this crazy world, or even what’s taught in school.  So, who does that leave?  Life is a lesson, life is a school, business is a school filled with lessons.

So, who’s the teacher?

You!

If you’re going to be a leader.  Your communication and the way you communicate has changed quite a bit. It’s not about promising the future and inspiring people to be the best they can be. I mean, there will always be part of that, but it’s ego less. It’s understanding little voices. It’s about making it safe for people to work with you. It’s about not making promises, by talking one to many, being real, being authentic and teaching people how to empower themselves.

 

Now this is a broad overview, but communication has changed. If you understand these things or are just being aware of them, you will notice a few things. You’ll notice that the rapport you build with people, whether it’s at home, at work, out in the community; whether it’s sales, marketing, whatever.  It’s changed. So please don’t be left behind by the change.

 

This time has taught us how to connect better. It’s taught us the power and the importance of connection. And it’s also taught us how easily people get confused and distracted. Be a great leader that can give focus, co-create, and architect the future.  Do this rather than allowing people to be victims of the future.

 

Nobody’s looking for promises anymore.  What people want to know is what is our future? How do we create it? How do we work together on this? How do I have some buy in it? Give me the dignity, the respect to show that I have something to offer…Let me contribute.

 

Most importantly, manage the little voice.  The little voice in your head, because as Napoleon Hill says, that fear, which pervades our business and personal lives is rampant in the world today.  Fear runs amuck, there are around 8 billion people out there. Fear of poverty, fear of loss of income, fear of illness, fear of death, fear of criticism.  Franklin D Roosevelt said, “the only fear we have, is fear itself.” Now why did he say that during the great depression? He said that because economic strife is one thing that we can all get through. But when people panic and the fear comes up, the intelligence goes down.  People tend to people fight with each other, and they get depressed. And then, they don’t have the mental attitude, the resourcefulness, the resilience.   The Little Voice is the biggest one of all in your life, in your family, and in all your business dealings. If you can be the person that replaces fear with courage, then there’s hope.

If you want to be a great communicator, hopefully you’ll follow this formula.

Be an amazing communicator starting right now.

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Communication Success Model

We’ve learned a lot the past 2 years.  At least, I know I have.  And being in sales, leadership, and communication, I wanted to share with you a couple of things that have changed dramatically.

Primarily, communication!  Whether in business, at home, or with yourself, I see a few areas of major change in how we communicate.

  • How you communicate in your personal life
  • How you communicate as a leader
  • How you communicate around money
  • And, how you communicate within your business

These are some very significant changes. And if you don’t understand these changes, you’re not going to be effective. You know, in business we say good communication creates good cash flow, internal and external.


If you’re going to be a successful communicator.  You need some solid tools to communicate effectively.

First, consider the communication you have with yourself.  You know, the “little voice.”  Yeah, you do, it’s the one in your head that I always talk about.  The one that just said, “What little voice?”

These days words, like depression, confusion, and hopeless are all over the media and pop into people’s mind.  Especially when they’re easily distracted and desperate. These are words that we haven’t thought about too much. Things we didn’t talk about much because attitudes were good. We didn’t have a pandemic. We didn’t have a crazy economy to face.  But right now, you have to understand that these words are there. They’re in your head. They’re in other people’s heads and they need to be addressed.

There are simple strategies, to deal with it. If you overlook those 500-pound gorillas, then you’re missing the boat and you won’t make the connect.  More importantly, those are issues you need to deal with yourself. Because two people look at the same experience.  One in a depressed frame of mind, one in an optimistic frame of mind, they’re going to see the same situation very differently. They will respond very differently too. That’s happening around the world to everybody.  It’s important to understand your little voice.

The other piece here around communication is your connection with other people.

Now, what do I mean by that?

These days, every group, every person out there is looking to be respected.  In fact, they are not just looking to be respected, they are demanding it.  Demanding a level of dignity that they feel as a human being, they should be entitled to.  If you’re going to be a leader in communication and be able to get what you want, help other people get what they want.

You must understand what sits beneath the surface of most communication.  You need to be aware, aware of what other people are feeling, what they are thinking.  We call that empathy; to be able to feel what other people feel.  As a leader, be willing to address it and shift your communication according to where someone else is at.

The final issue (and probably the biggest) about your connection with other people… lose the ego.  Let go of the ego, that need to be right.  I say, fight being right. It’s okay to be right. Not but to fight, just to be right.   It only upsets the whole connection with other people.  Allow your ego to be less, allow people to criticize. You don’t need to fight back all the time. These are things that are hot beds right now. And if you don’t believe me, just look at the news, just look at what’s going on in many cities around the world.

If you want to be a great communicator, these are things to keep in mind, just in dealing with other people. Next time, I’ll cover how this applies to your business.

 

Morning Routine: Final Steps to Create a Successful Day

In the first two messages, I shared five steps of my morning routine:

1 – Drink water

2 – Meditate

3 – Affirmations

4 – Visualize

5 – Exercise

Click to read part 1 – MORNING ROUTINE
Click to read part 2 – MORNING ROUTINE NEXT STEPS…

This week, I’ll share the last few steps of my morning routine.

Now that I have exercised, it’s time to read.  I like to read something spiritual. I’m currently reading, The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday.   It is filled with quotes for each day of the year.

The thought for today is by Seneca, an ancient Roman Stoic. He said, “The greatest portion of peace of mind is doing nothing wrong. Those who lack self-control live disoriented and disturbed lives.”

And then there’s a whole explanation. Consider the fugitives willingly, turn themselves in. After years on the run, why would they do that? They were free one step ahead of the law, but they gave up. Why? Because the guilt and the stress of a fugitive life eventually gets worse than the prospect of lost freedom.


I love to fill myself with inspirational stuff from other people. You don’t have to read a lot, just like one to three pages. You could do this whole thing in like 15, 20 minutes. When I’ve got the time, I’ll spend an hour doing it, not counting the workout.

Include reading in your morning routine.

And the last thing is, to scribe, do some writing. One thing I’ve learned, is that all successful people keep journals.  The simplest journaling you could do is a simple gratitude exercise.

Here’s the gratitude exercise I follow (with my written examples). It comes from my mentor, Alan Walters:

  1. What are your goals for the day?

Today, I want to have a good day, complete my videos, and to close several open loops in my business.

  1. What am I willing to give to others today?

I’m giving presence, peace, energy, wisdom, and love.

  1. Name 10 things that I’m grateful for right now.

Presence, Love, Health, Energy, Spiritual teammates, Family, Friends, Wealth, Peace, and Happiness.

  1. What am I grateful for that someone else does for me?

Well, I’m grateful to my team, both locally and globally for maintaining our business and for expanding our mission around the world.

  1. What am I happy about?

I’m happy to give value to other people that are looking to improve their lives. That’s what I’m happy to do today.

The second part of this process happens in the evening, before going to bed.  You ask and write the answers to these questions:

  1. How did I do on my goals?
  2. What did I give to others today?
  3. What am I happy about tonight?

And I make a list of all my wins I accomplished through the day. Then I go to bed. That’s my routine.

If you can follow this process, even in its most abbreviated format, least seven days, here’s what’s going happen.  You’re going to notice some different things happening in your life that are very positive. Like…

  • Finding yourself a little bit more in the right place at the right time.
  • People being attracted to you in a very positive way.
  • You’re going find that suddenly, your luck is begun to turn positive a little bit more.

Would that be useful to you? I think it will. Now don’t ask me why that happens. I’m sure some of you have some great ideas as to why that happens. It’s the law of attraction says what you know, says that as your being, this gets bigger, you attract more.

I call it sacred time. Why? Because nobody messes with it. No matter how early I need to get up, no matter how late I went to bed, I’m committed to that sacred time before I go on with my day.

I’m not going to let the world dictate to me how my life will be today. I dictate that myself and you should too.  Even if you can, even if you are pressed on time and you only got five to 10 minutes to run through it, that’s five to 10 minutes well worth spent.

 

 

 

Morning Routine Next Steps…

Last time I share the first two steps of my morning routine: 1 – drink water and 2 meditate, click to read this article.

The third thing is, affirmations. Now, you may be asking, “What’s an affirmation?”  In this case, an affirmation is a statement that is declared to be true.  I like my affirmations to be in present tense, personal and positive.  I’ve got a whole stack of them (about 50 or so).   I’ve written them down, one on each note card.  And every morning, after mediation, I go through each one.  A few of mine are:

  • “My body and immune systems are strong and ward off all disease and any entity that can cause my body illness; including COVID 19, Hemochromatosis, the flu.” And whatever I can think of that could possibly hurt me. Right?
  • “I am reliable, dependable and honorable.”
  • “I am a great teacher and leader.”
  • “I’m a responsive, caring, loving husband and father.”
  • “I love my body and do only healthy thing to keep it strong and healthy.”
  • “I love people.”
  • “I’m responsible.”
  • “I am valuable, and I value myself.”
  • “I’m a great team leader and encourage and allow and inspire others to lead.”
  • “I’m a huge, loving, spiritual being.”
  • “I create financial security and abundance for in my family.”

So, whatever your affirmations are, write them down.  You don’t need 50 of them. Start with five, that’s fine.


It’s important to spend a few minutes each day reading them out loud. You need to feel them and say them.  Why? Well, because your brain is elastic, right? It’s called neuroplasticity.  The more times you repeat something, it begins to formulate as a permanent thought in your brain. It’s not just a fleeting thought, okay? You start responding differently. You, you start acting differently. You start setting yourself up to win.  That is what happens.

Step four, have a seat, gently close your eyes, take a deep breath, and visualize.  Visualize your day. What do you want your day to look like?  For me, I want to record six videos today. I plan to spend some time with my son today. Um, I’m looking forward to talking to my sister this afternoon.   I picture a million dollars sitting in my bank account.  I live in a beautiful new home, in a great neighborhood.  I look forward to having all my friends around me most of the time.

And it’s okay if you visualize the same or similar things again and again.  If more come to mind, good.   Maybe your visualization will take a little bit longer, but just allow yourself to see it, feel it and hear it. Okay. Every day. Whatever, it is you want to accomplish, visualize it!

Now number five is exercise. I work out regularly with my fitness GURU, Mack Newton at 10:00 AM Phoenix, Arizona time. And by the way, you can go online and work out with Mack too.

For information, go to https://www.macknewton.com/. If you want to try a workout, he offers a Seven-minute workout (under Resources Tab, Video Vault).  You can handle seven minutes. As one of the people in the front row, we did this a few years ago. It is a simple, fast-paced workout.   Now, if you feel strong after completing seven minutes, then do two of them.  Feel strong with that? Do three of them, then, four or five of those seven minute workouts back to back at the minimum.  But, start with one seven minute workout. If you haven’t worked out at all.  Do some stretching, get your body flowing. Get, get the blood moving.  Exercise is critical to good thinking and high mood levels.

I’ll share the last few steps next week.

So after the exercise, then what you do is you read now you read something spiritual. Okay. So for me, I, one of the things I have is this one called the daily stoic and what it is, it’s it’s quotes each day of the year. There’s a quote in here. So let’s see today, May 11th. Okay. What’s the thought for today? This is by Seneca. One of the ancient Roman Stoics. He said the greatest portion of peace of mind is doing nothing wrong. Hmm. The greatest portion of peace of mind is doing nothing wrong. Those who lack self-control live disoriented and disturbed lives. Okay, good. And then there’s a whole explanation here. Consider the fugitives willingly, turn themselves in. After years on the run, why would they do that? They were free one step ahead of the law, but they gave up. Why? Because the guilt and the stress of the Fugit of life eventually gets worse than the prospect of lost freedom.

In fact, it was its own kind of prison and more of that. So I, I loved the read. So I have that, uh, I read a little of at, Caroli see what at cartel, what I read today, uh, presence, presence being present is a state of inner spaciousness. When you are present, you ask, how do I respond to the needs of this situation in this mode? In fact, you don’t even need to ask the question. You are still alert, open to what is you bring a new dimension into the situation space. Then you look and you listen, thus, you become one with the situation. When instead of reacting against the situation you merged with it, the solution arises out of the situation itself. Okay? So I love to fill myself with inspirational stuff from other people. You don’t, again, you don’t have to read a lot, just like one page, two pages, three pages. You could do this whole, you could do this without the exercise. You could do this whole thing in like 15, 20 minutes. Um, when I’m really, when I’ve got the time, I’ll spend an hour doing it, not counting the workout. Okay? Um, here’s one becoming a good apprentice.

You do not seek to have before you be, or before you do, this is quite the opposite of most people who demand high salaries and numerous benefits. Even though they lack competence and knowledge in the area who have some perverted fixed ideas, such as the universe owes me a living, or you know me, you owe me, this is the height of criminality because it violates reciprocation, spiritual knowledge and skills. Last, an eternity and identities are a person’s knowledge and skills last all only a few years, spiritual knowledge is forever. Okay. Read.

And the last thing is, describe is describe, is to do some writing. One thing I learned that all successful people keep journals. And so the simplest journal you could do is, is what I do, which is just a very simple gratitude exercise. Okay? So gratitude exercise.

So here’s the gratitude exercise. I’ll give it to you right here. It is. Number one. What are your goals for the day? You write them down? I said today, I said, I have a, I wanna to have a good day with many videos completed and to close several open loops in my business. Number two, what am I willing to give to others today? I’m giving presence, peace, energy, wisdom, and love today. That’s what I plan to give today. 10 things that I’m grateful for right now. Number one, now presence. Love health, energy, spiritual teammates, family, friends, wealth. Okay. Number four. What am I grateful for that someone else does for me? Well, I’m grateful to my team. I’m grateful on my team, both locally and globally for maintaining our business and for expanding our mission around the world. And number five, what am I happy about?

Well, I’m happy to give value. Uh, I’m happy to give value to other people that are looking to improve their lives. That’s what I’m happy to do today. Okay. So that’s it now at, at tonight? What, when I go to bed, the, the back part of that is how did I do on my goals? Number two, what did I give to others today? Number three, what am I happy about tonight? And I make a list of all my wins. I make a list of all my, all my wins that I it’s accomplished through the day. Then I go to bed. That’s my routine. That’s my morning routine. Now again, I spent some extra time to explain it to you. So maybe you took some notes. Maybe you wanna copy it a little bit. Um, I’m happy to have you do that. Why? Because one thing I’m, I’m gonna guarantee you this.

If you can follow this process, even as in its most abbreviated format, if you can follow this format for at least seven days, not 70, not seven months, but seven days, here’s what’s gonna happen. You’re gonna notice some different things happening in your life that are very positive. You’re gonna know. So you’re gonna find yourself a little bit more in the right place at the right time. Uh, people are gonna be bringing, being attracted to you in a very positive way. You’re gonna find that all of a sudden your luck is begun to turn positive a little bit more. Would that be used to you? I think it will. Now don’t ask me why that happens. I’m sure some of you have some great ideas as to why that happens. It’s the law of attraction says what you know, says that as your being, this gets bigger, you attract more.

But what you attract is not always positive. Why is it positive with this is because the beingness that you’re putting out is all positive, positive, more positive, and you’ll attract more. Okay. So again, have a great day, have a day that you want. I call it sacred time. Why? Cuz nobody messes with it. No matter how early I gotta get up, no matter how late I went to bed, I gotta spend time sacred time before I go to my phone. Okay. I’m not gonna be looking. I I’m not gonna let the world dictate to me how my, how my life is gonna be today. I’m gonna dictate that myself and you should too. Okay. Even if you can, even if you are pressed on time and you only got five to 10 minutes to run through it, that’s five to 10 minutes well worth spent.

Okay? So that’s my morning routine. Those of you sport. Now you got it. Uh, again, if you wanna know a little bit more on the details, if you go to Blair singer.com, got some amazing videos on little voice mastery and some amazing resources and amazing mentors that you can follow, that’ll help give you the inspiration that you need every day. Okay? Subscribe to the channel so we can update you on all the new videos that we’re putting up every week. Cuz we’re putting up a lot of new videos every week that are all designed to help you get better in whatever area of your life you wanna get better. You’re physically, mentally, emotionally, and spear virtually. Okay. So thank you. And we’ll see you next time

 

 

 

Morning Routine

Let me ask you a question.

Would you like to have a string of really, really good days back-to-back?

I’m sure the answer to that is yes.  And for most of my life, I’m always looking for ways to do that. And over the years, I’ve accumulated lots of habits, lots of disciplines


Recently the question came up, “Blair, what’s your morning routine?” What is it you do? How do you keep your head on straight?  And, how do you have good days one after the other?

Well, I wish I could tell you that every day is a good day. Not every day is a good day, but most of them are.  I want to share with you what I do in case you want to copy it to use it for yourself.

One thing that I found is that great athletes, great performers, great business people, very successful people, basically have routines.  They have rituals. A ritual is something you do again and again and again.

Why do you do it? Because it works because.  It becomes a habit in the habit, becomes beliefs and beliefs become your behaviors, which ultimately affect your results. So, if you’re looking for better results, I’m going to give you, my routine (an abbreviated version).  That way, you get a feel for it. You’re welcome to change it, add to it, whatever you want to do.

Now, part of this formula is from a fellow by the name of Hal Elrod. You may be familiar with his book, The Miracle Morning: The Not So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life Before 8:00 AM.

So, what does that mean?  It means, whatever you’re going to do, you’re going to do it first thing in the morning.

My routine follows some of his format, but the way I do it is very different.  So here we go.

Step number one.   The first thing you do, when you get up in the morning, drink some water.   Remember you’ve been sleeping for 6, 7, 8 hours with no water, get a good slug of water into you. Maybe up to 16 ounces, brush your teeth, do what you got to do in the bathroom. Do not look at your phone, no text messages or WhatsApp or social media. Don’t do it, resist, put it someplace else.

Take this sacred time and make sure you keep it sacred. Why? Because you deserve it. Why else? Because it will set your context, giving you a reset in the proper way for a great day. Wouldn’t you like to have a day that goes the way you want it to go?

Wouldn’t you like to be in the right place at the right time with a right people, with the right questions, with the right answers, and the right solutions?  Some people say that’s luck. Well, it’s not luck. It happens when you start to attract things in your life because you’re focused on the good things in your life.

Step number two, meditate. I don’t know about you, but I’ve had a difficult time meditating. My brain is like Bing, Bing, Bing all over the place.  What I’ve learned is, I need to learn how to meditate.   I’m very blessed, to be working with an amazing Buddhist monk from the Buddhist temple in Thailand, the largest in the world.

And every Monday he trains me, now it’s a little bit easier to do.

I’ll share the tips he’s given me about meditation.  First, there is no such thing as a bad meditation. If you meditate for only 10 seconds, that’s a good meditation. And no matter what happens, if your brain is like bouncing all over the place, it’s okay. Just do your best. Take a breath.

It’s kind of like fighting in a ring.  You’re in a ring punching, but your mind’s just all over the place. Stop, open your eyes. Reset. Sit down, close your eyes, take some deep breaths. Feel the air going through your nose, down to a place just above your naval and just allow your mind to go still.

He gave this analogy:  two bodies of water, a very muddy river that’s filled with silt. You can’t see what’s below the surface, could be all kinds of nasty things down there.  Or you could go to a crystal-clear Caribbean lagoon where you can see 40, 50 feet straight down to the bottom. You can see all the fish; you can see everything in there.

He said, that’s your mind. Do you want to make decisions from a muddy perspective or a clear perspective?   The idea is to still the mind and just clear it. Even if it’s only for 10 seconds, you might meditate for five minutes, 10 minutes, 20 minutes, 30 minutes, 60 minutes it’s up to you.  Whatever you feel comfortable with, but don’t beat yourself up if it’s hard to shut your brain down. That’s the whole point, to learn how to do it.  Just, meditate!

I’ll share more steps in the next article.